I'm speaking to those that have lost a child. It's a loss like no other, it takes a part of you with them, and it's a loss that periodically starts the grieving process over and over again. It's no doubt, the absolute biggest pain and mental struggle that will be faced in a persons life. Others are aware, but they do not understand. However, those that are still there, in your everyday life, are likely to be living in a constant memorium of your child. Its unintentional. It's your way of keeping them "present" in the family. You couldn't bare for anyone to forget him, or worse for you to forget things. After all, that's all you have left of them. But hear me when I say, that eventually your other children, will look at you and say, "I AM here." I NEED my whole Mom, i NEED my whole Dad. It will rock you to the core, thinking you hadn't been providing that. I recently felt this, and realized that I do not need to speak of him every day to "keep him alive". They loved him too. They miss him too. And they need you.
BE present.
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